Over the course of our life, we spend most of our time with just five people! That is amazing to think about and can be uplifting or detrimental to us.
Jim Rohn said,
In my opinion, I think it is bigger than that. Why? We are shaped by many different people throughout our life and the effects can be dramatic on our attitude and outlook. There are people in my life that I don’t spend most of my time with and they STILL impact my life. There are family, friends, and former co-workers who I don’t spend much time with, and they still impact my life in a positive way.
However, there are others in our life who impact us negatively. I know we don’t like to admit that, but it’s true. Why don’t we like to admit it? If it’s a family member or friend, it is tough to think that they are toxic to us.
If it’s a boss or co-worker, this may be challenging to address. However, it’s not impossible to address the situation. If a boss or co-worker is toxic, it is important to ask ourselves – “Will we respond or react to their toxicity?”
There is a major difference between reacting and responding. A reaction is typically swift, aggressive, and happens without much thought. A response is more deliberate and allows us time to think.
Have you ever found that by reacting it begets another reaction?
Trust me…I’ve reacted to a toxic boss. It begot me a reaction that could have been avoided!
It’s not that you don’t recognize your anger; you should recognize your anger and take that pause, then respond. By pausing, it gives you time to take appropriate action.
With that said, there are times we need to remove people from our life that are toxic. Whether it be temporary or permanent. At times, we may not see the impact toxic people are having on our life. That is a blind spot. Those around us will see the impact and we need to be humble enough to listen to them. I’ve had to do both – remove toxic people from my life temporarily and permanently. It’s an exercise where I had to embrace the SUCK and just do it!
That’s why I created a free tool for you that can be found by clicking here. It’s designed to help you realize those that you may need a break from – temporarily or permanently.
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